The law of attraction argues that positive thoughts and actions bring more good things into our lives – the energy you put out brings the same back to you. By that line of thinking, the more attractive you are, the more attractive dating options will come your way.
Attractiveness may have some to do with beauty, but it’s not simply about whether or not you have “good” genes and a symmetrical face. Attractiveness is about being pleasing to all of the senses – sight, sound, scent, taste and touch.
Additionally, how you feel about yourself impacts how attractive you are. Self-awareness and confidence are key. It’s not merely about thinking you’re the best or being arrogant, it’s about being secure with as much of yourself as possible – the good and the bad.
“Be confident,” is something we hear all the time, and it’s integral to becoming more attractive. But, how does one do that? It’s all about how you take care of yourself and treat others. Consider what attracts you to someone? Is it the way a stranger walks? Do you know someone really driven? The person that always smells good? Now, do that for yourself and then some.
While this may seem obvious, having good hygiene – the practice of keeping yourself and your surroundings clean – is a good foundation to becoming more attractive. And, this needs to go beyond simply brushing your teeth when you wake up and before bed.
Wash your hands when you come in the house and before you touch someone’s body (particularly their privates). Keep your hands and nails clean, moisturized and nicely manicured. You don’t have to go to the salon, although, you should not have jagged hangnails.
Take care of your skin, face and hair, and preferably with different products. Let the 5-in-1 shampoo, conditioner and body wash go. Get familiar with what products are best for what body part – face, scalp, facial hair and your body. Keeping your body up like this will be pleasing to someones’ scent, touch and maybe even taste.
In terms of your surroundings, change your sheets often, keep your bathroom clean and it wouldn’t kill you to vacuum your car out. When the places you spend the most time are clean and in order, it’ll create an environment for you to thrive. (And, it’ll be even nicer when you invite someone into those places.)
This shouldn’t feel like work, and realistically, finding a hygiene routine you love doing with products that feel good will reflect in not only how you look but how you feel about yourself.
Sure, some health things are out of our control, however there are plenty of things you can do that will not only warrant positive changes in your physical appearance but will help put you in a better place emotionally and mentally.
Working out and investing in a fitness routine has a ton of benefits. In addition to getting into shape by strengthening your bones and muscles, it increases your circulation and gets more oxygen through your body, increases production of both dopamine and serotonin and helps you get a better sleep. You’ll be more rested and look and feel better.
What we eat significantly affects us similarly – both in how our body looks and physically functions but also in how we feel. Although some things vary for people, staying hydrated and having a balanced diet helps our insides function better and shows up in how our skin looks and feels and how our hair and nails look, grow and feel.
Lastly, putting the extra effort into taking care of yourself is hot!
Being kind should not only be extended to people you are attracted to. You’re instantly more attractive if your inherent good nature extends to people around and even more so, people that don’t do anything for you in return. This can include the barista where you get coffee, the waitstaff or bartender at a restaurant, or the person you’ll hold the door for walking out of a building behind you.
You’ll also want to know the difference between nice and kind. “Nice” is defined as pleasing, agreeable, and delightful, while “kind” is defined as having, showing, or proceeding from benevolence. Niceness is typically self-motivated and can look like doing things to warrant a response or to get something in return. Being kind is caring about people and your actions show that you care. This is why the saying “nice guys finish last” has some truth to it. If your actions are for performance or comprises your sense of self in order to be liked, oftentimes people can pick up on it.
Lastly, smile! This goes back to putting out the energy you want to receive. Smiles can be warm, rewarding and offer affirmation to those around you. It can let someone know you’re comfortable around them and happy to hear what they have to say. If you like someone, don’t forget to show it.
Now that we’ve done all that good work, show it off. Sit and walk tall and confidently. Your body language can be a real indicator of how you feel about yourself and the energy you’re open to attracting from others. This is where the confidence shines from the inside out. People will see it and be attracted to it.
Walk as if you know what you’re doing and where you’re going, and people will want to walk with you. It’s not always about how you look as much as what others’ feel around you.
While we know the purpose of this is to be more attractive to potential dates, what’s most attractive is building a fulfilling life of your own for someone to consider being a part of, and this includes having a few healthy friendships.
While many people’s families have a bit of dysfunction, friends – or your chosen family – can be where you practice healthy relationships. Working on communicating better, sharing yourself with others and caring for others with friends sets the stage for how you do it with someone you’re dating.
It’s super attractive when someone not only has their own life and friendships, but it’s even more so when they’re long, healthy relationships as it’s a reflection of how you treat others and how you want to be treated.
This one is often where all the hard work goes awry. When you get on dating apps, you must remember who your intended audience is and what about yourself might appeal to them. Women are socialized and used to trying to attract men, and that translates on many of their dating profiles.
Men, on the other hand, seem to lead with what they’d be impressed with. This is subsequently what would be impressive to other men. Women are not impressed by the fish you caught, at all. The voice function or video functions? This isn’t Instagram or TikTok. If you’re not sharing something to show why a potential date would enjoy dating you, save it for the group text. It’s a delicate balance of being yourself and remembering the objective of being on the app.
Think of it as marketing. You are the product, the people that are looking at your profile are the consumer. While it is supposed to be a reflection of yourself, the goal is to connect with someone. Craft your dating profile to attract who you’d like to date. If you’re flashing cash and expensive things, you’ll end up with someone impressed by that. If you’re sharing pictures of parties and taking shots, you’ll attract someone to do that with.
It all goes back to the law of attraction – put out what you want to bring in. Now that you know all the ways to be the most attractive version of yourself, sign up for uberhorny.com and see who you attract.